Every time I returned from the store. My three-year-old son would hurriedly drag the bags of groceries from the patio to the kitchen. He does some of these tasks he sees I do daily around the house without being directed. Some kids copy their parent's or guardians' behavior, and some kids would not naturally pick up their parents' behavior and needs to be encouraged and told what to do. When kids have responsibilities at home, it helps them develop positive habits and a mindset of helping others and the communities.
Most parents desire to see their kids grow to be responsible, independent, organized, respectful individuals with good worth ethics. If kids are encouraged to take up responsibilities at home, they would build these skills for life to come.
Duties And Responsibilities for Kids At Home
Have you seen when some robot tries to grasp stuff? It could be clumsy and difficult for robot to get the task done. What we tend to do easily around the house, to our three years old, that might look like rocket science. I have arranged the chores that kids can do in the house based on the kid's ages. This list isn’t necessarily stiff, it could be adjusted based on your child's development
2 Years - 3 Years Old
- Put the groceries away
- Put on shoes and pajamas
- Encourage them to put the toys and building blocks away
- Pick up food crumbs into their plates after meals
4 Years - 5 Years Old
- Put the dishes into the sink
- Load and unload dishes from dishwasher assisted
- Make the bed
- Feed the pets
- Arrange the bookshelves
- Put used clothes in the laundry baskets
- Start preparing meals and baking together, supervised
6 Years - 7 Years Old
- Sort out clothes together after laundry
- Put clothes into the washing machine
- Clean the floor with a smaller broom
- Clean the floor and the wall
- Wipe the table after each meal
- Organise school bag
- Pack lunch bag the night before
- Complete homework
8 Years-9 Years old
- Start receiving allowance
- Help with Meals
- Remove clothes from the dryer
- Stack cabinets with dishes, cutleries, and items
10 Years - 11 Years old
- Clean bathroom and kitchen
- Change the bedsheets
- Help in the yard or garden
12 Years old and older
- Get a babysitting and first aid license
- Babysit younger siblings
- Run Errands
- Do major activities at home unassisted
How To Teach Responsibility To KidsTeach them to pick up after themselves
One of the first responsibilities parents encourage from their children is to pick up after themselves, like picking up toys or food particles after each meal. While toddlers will not really excel at picking up their own messes, asking them to help begins to encourage a responsible mindset. Kids will continue to need encouragement and support from their parents to clean up messes.Model your Expectation
The best way to teach kids is to model exactly your expectation. If your child sees that you pick up after yourself, they will most likely do the same. A gentle reminder and positive encouragement would motivate kids as they grow into teenagers and young adults.Manage routines
Maintaining a certain routine would not only help in time management skills but also create a sense of responsibility. The kids most likely already follow an almost strict routine at school so demonstrating the same at home shouldn't be too difficult, if encouraged.
Involve them in the Giving process
Whether is giving back to the community through donations of clothes, toys, or food drives. Encourage them to pick birthday gifts for their friends or relatives.
Build a List
For younger kids, let them write down all tasks they would do in a day. Older kids, they necessarily don’t have to write them down but have a mental list. Let them know the order of things to be followed. For example, they should know the exact task they would do each day after school. Encourage them until it turns into a habit.
Teach them the consequences of their actions
Explain the consequence of their actions, for instance, if they never get ready on time for school, you could explain to them that they may fall behind in class. And sometimes the consequence could mean some form of discipline. So, for example, if they damage something carelessly, you can let them know that the consequence would mean paying back in some ways- like doing a task or deducting allowance. In any way to help teach the lesson.
Give Rewards and Praises
If your child has completed their task, do not forget to praise, or reward them. You could them to a fancy experience they would love, a toy they have been asking or praise them in front of the family.
Be patient with them.
According to Phillippa Lally, a health psychology researcher at University College London. It takes 18 days to 254 days for people to form a new habit. Forming a new habit or mastering a responsibility takes a lot of time and consistency so please be patient with them.